Married Single Mom!

The truth of the matter is that while Moms like myself stay at home and hear kiddie chitty chat all day, you working moms are given the opportunity to go out into the world and TALK! heck and even be Heard. Ultimately both have their advantages and disadvantages, so STOP looking at me like what I am doing is less than or something you could do, and do it gracefully.

I know a ton of people would look at my situation and assume it is ideal because of the home that I live in and the fact that I am MARRIED, and that I have two children with whom I get to stay home with and take care of. Truth is it isn't EASY at all, not even in the least bit. Honestly, I may have a tougher, non-paying job than all of you. I don't have set hours, my bosses are extremely temperamental. I have to deal with the pickiest meal plans, fashion fo pas, and EVERY bodily fluid that you could possibly think of. What do you have to do all day? Type some sh*t up... Oh' how I miss typing some sh*t up and talking to strangers on the phone. I guess that's why I'm here. Killing two birds with one stone.

Blocking out some kiddy chit chat all while typing some sh*t up! PERFECT.

I CAP LOCKED for a reason when I said MARRIED not too long ago! No, not because I wanted you b*tches to know that I had a HusBae ( something I made up it is a combination of HUSBAND cus sis got a RING and BAE cuz you know he is just SCRUMPTIOUS) lol. It was because I wanted to put emphasis on that little sparkle and point out that although I am married I still have many of the single mom woes...WHO WOULD HAVE GUESSED IT?!

Andrew is on the road all of the time which means that I am left here with the kids. Not STUCK but STUCK if you know what I mean. So it's not like we get to regroup every night face to face? NOPE, it doesn't go down like that. Mommy does BEDTIME and a whole lot of everything else alone. Not EVERY NIGHT or DAY thankfully which makes me appreciate this layout even more. One thing I can say is that no matter how tired Andrew is or how unbothered he would like to be because of how long he has been at work he never lets that load off on us. Yea we talk about ALL of the serious stuff and we never sweep ANYTHING under the rug even if that's what we wish we could do. We always just find a way to talk it out and circle back if at the moment our energies just aren't matching.

One thing is for sure we always play the long game so we try our hardest to avoid arguments or anything negative for that matter that may overwhelm or overcome us. we’ve learned the hard way that while something may seem to go against your wants those same actions may be the same ones that feed your needs. For example, Andrew works the way that he does and as hard as he does so that he is able to provide for his family financially, he values his children being able to learn from the many experiences they get from being home longer than the average child, but most importantly we both value our TIME! and when I say OUR I am speaking of each member of our family. Clearly, our children won't remain, children, as we didn't, and they won't always look at us through rose-colored lenses because the essence of life will change many things. However, What I do know is that these memories won't change they will simply be expanded upon.

So if you were to ask me when I was a child how I thought my marriage would be, what my lifestyle would have been and so on and so forth I would have given you a child's answer. Ask me now and I will say that as beautiful as it is chaos seems to stay close and stress that's a chat for another day. I would tell you that as a mom to brown babies I am nervous all of the time, I have the worst anxiety when Andrew leaves for work, and that the world we are currently living in is shaping the sh*t out of how I deal with my children. Ask me If I am ok not if I am satisfied with my life because I CHOSE THIS! and knowing all that I do know I would CHOOSE it again. I am secure in knowing that every decision that Andrew and myself have made will continue to be perfect for us.

Naturally, I don't expect that to be understood by everyone. Just don't BASH it.

living life One day at a time with an open heart and mind is all we can do. trut

h of the matter is that while Moms like myself stay at home and hear kiddie chitty chat all day, you working moms are given the opportunity to go out into the world and TALK!  heck and even be Heard. Ultimately both have their advantages and disadvantages, so STOP looking at me like what I am doing is less than or something you could do, and do it gracefully.  

I know a ton of people would look at my situation and assume it is ideal because of the home that I live in and the fact that I am MARRIED, and that I have two children with whom I get to stay home with and take care of. Truth is it isn't EASY at all, not even in the least bit. Honestly, I may have a tougher, non-paying job than all of you. I don't have set hours, my bosses are extremely temperamental. I have to deal with the pickiest meal plans, fashion fo pas, and EVERY bodily fluid that you could possibly think of. What do you have to do all day? Type some sh*t up... Oh' how I miss typing some sh*t up and talking to strangers on the phone. I guess that's why I'm here. Killing two birds with one stone.

Blocking out some kiddy chit chat all while typing some sh*t up! PERFECT.

I CAP LOCKED  for a reason when I said MARRIED not too long ago! No, not because I wanted you b*tches to know that I had a HusBae ( something I made up it is a combination of HUSBAND cus sis got a RING and BAE cuz you know he is just SCRUMPTIOUS)  lol. It was because I wanted to put emphasis on that little sparkle and point out that although I am married I still have many of the single mom woes...WHO WOULD HAVE GUESSED IT?!

Andrew is on the road all of the time which means that I am left here with the kids. Not STUCK but STUCK if you know what I mean. So it's not like we get to regroup every night face to face? NOPE, it doesn't go down like that. Mommy does BEDTIME and a whole lot of everything else alone. Not EVERY NIGHT or DAY thankfully which makes me appreciate this layout even more. One thing I can say is that no matter how tired Andrew is or how unbothered he would like to be because of how long he has been at work he never lets that load off on us. Yea we talk about ALL of the serious stuff and we never sweep ANYTHING under the rug even if that's what we wish we could do. We always just find a way to talk it out and circle back if at the moment our energies just aren't matching.

One thing is for sure we always play the long game so we try our hardest to avoid arguments or anything negative for that matter that may overwhelm or overcome us. we’ve learned the hard way that while something may seem to go against your wants those same actions may be the same ones that feed your needs. For example, Andrew works the way that he does and as hard as he does so that he is able to provide for his family financially, he values his children being able to learn from the many experiences they get from being home longer than the average child, but most importantly we both value our TIME! and when I say OUR I am speaking of each member of our family. Clearly, our children won't remain, children, as we didn't, and they won't always look at us through rose-colored lenses because the essence of life will change many things. However, What I do know is that these memories won't change they will simply be expanded upon.

So if you were to ask me when I was a child how I thought my marriage would be, what my lifestyle would have been and so on and so forth I would have given you a child's answer. Ask me now and I will say that as beautiful as it is chaos seems to stay close and stress that's a chat for another day. I would tell you that as a mom to brown babies I am nervous all of the time, I have the worst anxiety when Andrew leaves for work, and that the world we are currently living in is shaping the sh*t out of how I deal with my children. Ask me If I am ok not if I am satisfied with my life because I CHOSE THIS! and knowing all that I do know I would CHOOSE it again. I am secure in knowing that every decision that Andrew and myself have made will continue to be perfect for us.

Naturally, I don't expect that to be understood by everyone. Just don't BASH it.

living life One day at a time with an open heart and mind is all we can do.working moms are given the opportunity to go out into the world and TALK!  heck and even be Heard. Ultimately both have their advantages and disadvantages, so STOP looking at me like what I am doing is less than or something you could do, and do it gracefully.  

I know a ton of people would look at my situation and assume it is ideal because of the home that I live in and the fact that I am MARRIED, and that I have two children with whom I get to stay home with and take care of. Truth is it isn't EASY at all, not even in the least bit. Honestly, I may have a tougher, non-paying job than all of you. I don't have set hours, my bosses are extremely temperamental. I have to deal with the pickiest meal plans, fashion fo pas, and EVERY bodily fluid that you could possibly think of. What do you have to do all day? Type some sh*t up... Oh' how I miss typing some sh*t up and talking to strangers on the phone. I guess that's why I'm here. Killing two birds with one stone.

Blocking out some kiddy chit chat all while typing some sh*t up! PERFECT.

I CAP LOCKED  for a reason when I said MARRIED not too long ago! No, not because I wanted you b*tches to know that I had a HusBae ( something I made up it is a combination of HUSBAND cus sis got a RING and BAE cuz you know he is just SCRUMPTIOUS)  lol. It was because I wanted to put emphasis on that little sparkle and point out that although I am married I still have many of the single mom woes...WHO WOULD HAVE GUESSED IT?!

Andrew is on the road all of the time which means that I am left here with the kids. Not STUCK but STUCK if you know what I mean. So it's not like we get to regroup every night face to face? NOPE, it doesn't go down like that. Mommy does BEDTIME and a whole lot of everything else alone. Not EVERY NIGHT or DAY thankfully which makes me appreciate this layout even more. One thing I can say is that no matter how tired Andrew is or how unbothered he would like to be because of how long he has been at work he never lets that load off on us. Yea we talk about ALL of the serious stuff and we never sweep ANYTHING under the rug even if that's what we wish we could do. We always just find a way to talk it out and circle back if at the moment our energies just aren't matching.

One thing is for sure we always play the long game so we try our hardest to avoid arguments or anything negative for that matter that may overwhelm or overcome us. we’ve learned the hard way that while something may seem to go against your wants those same actions may be the same ones that feed your needs. For example, Andrew works the way that he does and as hard as he does so that he is able to provide for his family financially, he values his children being able to learn from the many experiences they get from being home longer than the average child, but most importantly we both value our TIME! and when I say OUR I am speaking of each member of our family. Clearly, our children won't remain, children, as we didn't, and they won't always look at us through rose-colored lenses because the essence of life will change many things. However, What I do know is that these memories won't change they will simply be expanded upon.

So if you were to ask me when I was a child how I thought my marriage would be, what my lifestyle would have been and so on and so forth I would have given you a child's answer. Ask me now and I will say that as beautiful as it is chaos seems to stay close and stress that's a chat for another day. I would tell you that as a mom to brown babies I am nervous all of the time, I have the worst anxiety when Andrew leaves for work, and that the world we are currently living in is shaping the sh*t out of how I deal with my children. Ask me If I am ok not if I am satisfied with my life because I CHOSE THIS! and knowing all that I do know I would CHOOSE it again. I am secure in knowing that every decision that Andrew and myself have made will continue to be perfect for us.

Naturally, I don't expect that to be understood by everyone. Just don't BASH it.

living life One day at a time with an open heart and mind is all we can do.