What are you going to do to take care of yourself this year MAMA?!

Self care right?! Yea’

Every MAMA says that at the start of the yr!!

Even me! But this year is different. We won’t be focusing of resolutions, we will be focusing on expectations that we set for ourselves which in my opinion puts us on a sliding scale. This method as opposed to the traditional, reminds us that OKAY yea…shit is HARD and life may throw curve balls at you but that does not change how far we have come and how much further we are willing to go especially as mothers

The scale while you slide back and forth based on what ever is going on in your life shows you how consistent you may or may not have been. I know it sounds cliché but it is beyond necessary when it comes to identifying where you may be falling short in providing your self with what ever it is that you may be needing. Mama it is necessary to follow through while you are on this journey you need to be consistent make it HAPPEN. I believe that anything is possible, especially with the implementation of some well needed MAMA self care.

Not to be in your business MAMA but HOW are you practicing self care? What did you do or what will you be doing? Have you even given it any thought? If not lets jot some things down NOW so that we can get the ball rolling for FEBRUARY and the remainder of JANUARY.

Again, I know that it’s much easier said than done isn’t it? You would think that it's something that cames naturally because we've been told we are born to be nurturers, care takers and freaking balls of love and sunshine because that’s who MOTHERS are.

RIGHT?! Yet we don’t give ourselves ANY of it.

We constantly deprive ourselves and we bury all of those feelings when they pertain to ourselves deep and only take them out for a privileged select few! Didn’t we learn ANYTHING from our MOTHERS?! Agh!! The “MOM can do it all” attitude is damaging. Our mothers were BURNT OUT and TIRED. Let’s try to break that generational curse in parenting! The one that NO ONE talks about.

MAMA why is it that we never make the cut? Why can’t we put ourselves at the top of the list? Why can’t we make ourselves a priority just like we do everything else?

Yea’ I get that EVERYONE needs you and the world 🌎 will more than likely stop spinning and combust into flames if you take a break but SERIOUSLY aren’t you worried about what will happen to YOU if you don’t STOP even if it’s for a split second?

Mama everything you are currently experiencing has been experienced by another mama! You aren’t alone in your struggle. Your journey, either motherhood or self discovery after children and or marriage may feel daunting at times and that is OKAY just don't get discouraged because the good girlfriend (me) is always here to help you out.

You are not a bad mother because you feel overwhelmed by your children or your spouse from time to time and you should not feel bad for being vocal about what you need from people in your life.

The main take away from all of this is that I want you to feel empowered to say NO to anything that does not serve you, your spirit or your growth. Mama say NO running yourself ragged, say NO to the MOMMY STRUGGLE CULTURE. Share your load MAMA.

All of the negativity, stress and anxiety that you are feeling are only being amplified because your mind is on the hamster wheel.

You are in go mode 24/7 and you truly don’t give yourself the opportunity to ⏰ CATCH UP.

Of course you are going to spiral out of control.

So, get it in your mind now MAMA ... YOU ARE GOING TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST! What ever that may look like to you at any given time because like I always say " while the days are LONG the years are most definitely SHORT " you don't have forever to take care of yourself or to do the things that you truly want to do so stop acting as if you do. If you keep moving at the pace that you are going one day you will pick your head up, look in the mirror and not recognize who you are and why you dreamt of having kids or a family to begin with..

If you want to dance DANCE! If you want to eat cake DO IT! If you want to take a nap LAY THE FU*K DOWN, if you want to go out with the girls stop feeling GUILTY! Oh' yea if you want to smoke a lil sum sum which is what I like to do from time to time that's okay too! I would love to say that No-one is judging you or how you decide to practice self care but they are. CONSTANTLY lets just make the choice to ignore the negativity.

one last thing before I go MAMA, not everyone will understand your self care journey and it is not their responsibility to! No one owes it to you to understand why you need what you need when you need it and MAMA the same goes for you. You aren't a mind reader, or a superhero. SOoOoO yea it feels GREAT to save the day it isn't necessary to EVERYDAY.

Try saving YOURSELF for once MAMA.

I promise you won't be disappointed with the OUTCOME.

Mizz.Dunlap

The Good Girlfriend 💕